When a Man Loves a Woman_ movie reflection paper

 

남자가 사랑할 때

항공사 파일럿 마이클(앤디 가르시아)과 사랑스런 아내 앨리스(맥 라이언)는 겉보기에는 완벽한 결혼 생활을 유지하고 있다. 그러나 직업상 자주 집을 비워야만 했던 마이클을 기다리며 앨리스가 조금씩 입에 대기 시작한 술이 알코올 중독으로 번지면서 이들의 행복은 금이 가기 시작한다. 마이클은 그런 아내를 사랑으로 감싸고자 노력하지만 앨리스가 어린 딸을 구타하자 그녀를 갱생시설로 보내게 된다.

평점

8.8 (1994.08.13 개봉)

감독

루이스 만도키

출연

멕 라이언, 앤디 가르시아, 로렌 탐, 엘렌 버스틴, 유진 로체, 개일 스트릭랜드, 필립 세이모어 호프만

When a Man Loves a Woman_ movie reflection paper

 

1. Who (what) do you think was the problem? Why?

I think there was the problem with the couple’s relationship in the family. It was difficult to understand and sympathize with each other's perspectives. The wife, Alice tried to solve her problems and didn’t share them with her husband, Michael. As a result, she displayed abnormal behavior. It continued to create conflict with the family. He thought that he should adjust her unconditionally and solve her problems. He didn’t see her as she was and always thought she needed his help. Conflicts between couples naturally lead to problems for their children.

1. What caused such problem(s) to the family?

I think the beginning of the problem in the relationship was her alcoholism. Her alcoholism had hurt him and children in many ways. She suffered from alcoholism in her daily life. She drank more than a bottle of alcohol every day. She was not good at fulfilling her role as a mother. She became irrational and abnormal when she was drunk. For example, she threw eggs and butter at her neighbor's car when she was drunk. Her behavior was legal problems. She also caused problems with his work. She came home late after drinking a lot. He couldn't come to work the next day and she interrupted his schedule.

He always tried to relieve her stress. For one thing, he took a vacation and went on a trip with her. She caused a dangerous situation when she fell into the water while moving dangerously on board the ship. One day she swallowed aspirin with a alcohol and slapped her daughter, Jessi when Jessi talked to her. She collapsed in the shower and has a impact on her daughter. Her daughter naturally learned this behavior from her. She also started drinking through her father. Her children were at risk of easy access to alcohol. Her alcoholism affected her life and the entire family.

1. How was the problem maintained or worsened?

The relationship between the couple has worsened. The couple went to a mental hospital to treat her alcoholism. She was living in quarantine. She had a hard time in the beginning. At home, he easily got angry with his children as it became difficult to do housework. He also reacted sensitively to the housekeeper, and the housekeeper left the house for a while. Children also suffered from mother’s absence. The house was not cleaned and it was a mess.

On the other hand, Alice got along well in the hospital. She met many people who are similarly struggling at the hospital. Listening to other people's stories, she thought they are similar to her, and she easily sympathized with their stories. She thought people together in the hospital made her feel safe. He went to the hospital and was embarrassed by the fact that she was doing well even without him. He thought that her really needed him, but he seemed to feel jealous to see her doing well. He was jealous of her doing well without him. She thought he doesn't understand her yet. Their relationship worsened as a result.

1. What do you think brought changes (improvement) to the couple’s relationship?

The couple's relationship was improved through two things. First, he attended an alcoholic family reunion. At first, he thought alcoholics were failures and patients. However, after participating in the meetings for over four months, he was able to listen to various people's stories. And he could understand her by listening to stories similar to her.

Second, their relationship could be improved through a couple’s counseling. In the couple’s counseling, the couple could express their honest feelings. She said that he ignored her. He said he was trying to be considerate. They were able to see each other's perspectives objectively by participating in counseling programs. And she made a presentation in public at the end of her six-month period at the meeting. He was able to clear up any remaining misunderstandings by listening to her.

1. Your overall reflection about the movie relating to what we learned in class.

Family problems are mostly about relationships. It is important to understand the interaction between the individual and the entire family. We cannot solve family problems by focusing on the inner state of an individual. Understanding relationships is the beginning of family therapy. We can understand the interaction between the individual and the entire family by understanding it in the context of family. It is important what relationships affect behavioral expressions and how family members interact.

The title of the movie seems to be telling the point. “When a man loves a woman.” He looked at her from his own point of view. He gave her an unconditional love. He was disappointed if she didn't meet his expectations. I thought that relationships within the family would improve if her alcoholism was treated. However, even if she is not an alcoholic, the relationship’s problems have not been solved. I felt it is important to understand each other's perspectives in family relationships.

I think the most important thing was that he participated in an alcoholics family meeting. He listened to various people. He was also able to listen to advice by telling stories. At the same time, I think he was able to objectively look at his problems while listening to family's stories in similar situations. She also has conflicts within her family, but there was no problem when she went to a group with people similar to her. Through this, I realized that family problems should also go beyond one person's problems and find interaction.

I think efforts to understand the family's function and relationship have brought changes and improvements to the couple’s relationship. It is necessary to honestly reveal the problems that each person thinks in family relationships. I think candid expressions such as "I'm so lonely when you're not around" is the beginning of improving relationship.